I am not a strict moralist. To a lot of guys internet interactions are disconnected from reality, like looking at Playboy but interactive, like going to a strip club without leaving the house.  Oh and free! Women may view such communications differently. The femme on the other end of the sexting could possibly think

It means something,

that it is form of intimacy that carries a certain weight. Honeys, I have a clue for you, it means a lot less to them than fornication, and well, gods bless guys’ reptile brains–can I eat it? can I fuck it? will it kill me?–a lot of times, fornication doesn’t mean much to them either except during the act. Afterwards could be a yikes-ooops or oh wow I’ve seen heaven, where’s the marriage bureau moment. Or something in between. (And the “Will it kill me?” question has a subtext of “If I get caught.”)

Some women don’t care if the guy holding his joystick is single, married, engaged, or whatever, they are enjoying themselves, the drama, the intrigue, the sexiness. But it is an exchange, and that carries some emotional currency.

Women like reading porn; men like seeing it, so the old saw goes; and there are only so many ways to skin a cat or grease a pole, which is why so many online/stexting exchanges look and read, well just like everyone else’s. Or a bad draft of a Penthouse Forum letter. But Weiner’s free wheeling-dealer had a moment of real emotion–and gullibility coupled with gentle teasing–before she dropped the dox on the digital diddler.

May 31st 2011
omg! are u okay? so sorry u got hacked…i know u would never do anything like have fb sex or take pics of your c***…who is the b***** who ratted u out? I am the only fb chick u can trust
June 1st 2011
u owe me big time for keeping this all quiet…i am defending u to the death on every blog and to everyone….telling everyone u would never send dirty messages to women
i know u haven’t been on here since u were hacked but i NEED to talk to u…someone contacted me about u…call me or something.

And rat him out she did. RadarOnline.com reports that the day before Lisa Weiss approached them and their sister outlet The Star, the liberal blackjack dealer sent a Tweet to the Rachel Maddow show. On June 3.

@maddow have a juicy political story i wnt to give u!how do i contact ur show?

Hell hath no fury…

Men, keep in mind that even if you are not famous, a politician, or a famous politician, your Apple-wielding temptress, the passionate python petter behind the PC will tell someone, or several, about her FB fling with Tony the dentist.  And really shouldn’t have Weiner created an alter-ego? But then he couldn’t have used his Facebook account and Twitter as a feeding ground. And it’s kinda sad that he needed that reinforcement. And needed that risk.

Weiss says she didn’t know Weiner was married. Oh come on, she never thought to Google her cyber-stud? Um, fail.

For a woman in a committed real-life, beast with two backs relationship, finding out that her  sig-o has been stoking his stroking online can be a huge bummer, raising questions about fidelity, intimacy, sexuality, sharing, commitment and so on.  Those are issues that each couple needs to decide; it’s a case-by-case basis. A good rule of thumb: If you don’t want your current partner to know know what you are doing online, it’s time to re-examine things. Everything.